Daily Archives: April 7, 2011
For many people, gender is something that is in constant flux. Changing and evolving – just as we ourselves change, grow, and evolve. This changing is one of the reasons I am not in favour of gender labels (amoungst the many other labels I also disapprove of).
When we are young, or still coming to terms with who we are, gender labels can be useful. But they are just as likely to be binding, and constrictive, and not really indicative of who we are as individuals. What I do find interesting is how our label for the “gender variant” community has grown and changed.
A quick aside here? I don’t like the term gender variant either – at least not as I’ve had to use it above. After all… we are ALL variants. There is no “normal” gender except to be comfortable in who you are, regardless of your sex/gender identity.
All which can appear with or without the “A” at the end. And who knows where we will evolve from here.
Gender is about knowing oneself. And for those who insist, with fervor, that they are only two genders and that they themselves are clearly one or another… How many of you “ladies” wear blue? How many of you “guys” take care of children? Gender is a social construct insisting that traits fall into one category or another. Any variant from those traditional roles is gender variant. So, I insist, gender is about knowing oneself, and being comfortable within your self.
Labels are only useful so you know what’s in a closed box without having to open it. Labels don’t belong on people.