Labels

The word “label” can be very loaded.  It refers to the way we box one another in, the way we try to keep everyone locked into neat and tidy rows.  Throw a label on someone and you don’t have to dig any  further, you don’t need to learn any more.  Labels can be disgusting and dirty little things put upon us by “polite” society.  But, they can also be a way to help your child… heading off into the big world.  Where, for the first time, they don’t have you holding their  hand guiding them.  Putting labels on the wee girlie’s things probably wasn’t completely necessary…  but it’s my way of helping her to move on to this next step.  Hopefully, when she sees the little hearts, it will be a reminder of how treasured she is, and how important she is to me.

This is the first time that someone outside our family will have such a large and possibly profound impact on our wee girlie.  It scares me a little.  I did my homework, checked out our options.  Met teachers and T.A.s back in the Spring.  And I really do think I picked the best possible program for Lily-Ann.  But the fact remains, we (as parents) really know very little about the teachers we entrust the lives of our children to.  I have no way of knowing what values her teachers will impart… or if they will match our own.  All I can do is continue to guide Lily-Ann, to help her feel secure in who she is, so that as she grows she is capable of making sound, compassionate, loving choices.

I know the wee girlie is going to love this new stage of her life…  but as a parent, it requires a huge trust.  And I hope it is well placed.

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About Tobi-Dawne

Tobi-Dawne Smith is many things to many people... photographer, canine behaviour expert, equal rights activist, green politician, lactivist, intactivist, writer, crafter, dog handler, third wave feminist, etc. But most important in her life is her role as mother to an amazing five year old. Learn more about TD at http://www.tobi-dawne.com/ follow her blog at https://td365.wordpress.com/ get to know her daughter at http://lilyannslemonade.wordpress.com/ or check out her work at http://tdphotography.me/

Posted on September 6, 2010, in BlackBerry, Nuthin' much and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. TD, I think the fact that you are a strong and constant presence in your child’s life is what will determine her values in the long run. Yes, it’s true that teachers impart a certain “something” to the children…and that some children do take their values from teachers….but in many cases, that’s simply because the parents are NOT imparting the values consistently and lovingly at HOME. As long as home is a haven, and a place where the child can talk about their feelings freely…you will continue to be the main influence in her life. Stay a family. Make sure you sit down together as a family…do family mealtimes and things, and encourage her to tell you about her day…She will be fine because as a parent..you are in touch with her. And remember…as she told you…someday she is going to turn into a grownup 🙂 Sadly, it will be SO much sooner than you want it to be 😦

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