A2Z – Removing Stigma while Reintegrating Socially
Posted by Tobi-Dawne
So yeah… it’s Friday, and here I am… blogging. I know, I know. I don’t blog on Fridays. But I’m breaking my rule tonight with a double letter post. That’s right, here we are with R and S… and all so that T will fall on the 21st. LMAO Not sure why that’s important? Well, just make sure you come back tomorrow. 😉 Now, onto Removing Stigma while Reintegrating Socially!
I’ll admit, I’ve never had to come out to my family and friends as being a different sex or gender than I was assigned with at birth. For that? I feel very blessed. I can only imagine how difficult it would be, and how brave you would have to be. Coming out to yourself, and finding who you are when it doesn’t match who you’ve been told you are takes courage, but then going even further and coming out to everyone who knew the OLD you? That takes big freakin’ brass balls. And I have SOOO much respect and admiration for all of my Trans brothers and sisters. It’s hard enough to live authentically in our world, but to live authentically when you face that type of obstacle? It takes someone who is amazing: amazing, incredible, and fierce!
After all that? Well, the good news? Stigma just falls away when you get to that point. When you are ready to take your life back and live for YOURSELF? Your TRUE self? Then anyone who matters will be so in awe of everything you went through to get there that the only thing there will be LOADS of freakin’ respect.
No, that doesn’t mean it will be all roses. There are going to be asses in your life that will make things hard, and they may even make you question everything you’ve lived through up until that point… but cling to the fact that you are amazing, and that you DESERVE to be yourself. You have a right to live the truth, to be who you are, and to do so surrounded by people who get just how long of a journey authenticity can be. So forget the h8rs, you don’t need them, and be gentle with those who are trying (but may occasionally misuse a pronoun or old name) they’re worth the reminders. It won’t be easy, but once you get there it is SOOO worth it.
Nothing but love!
And know you aren’t alone. If you are in Saskatchewan, check out TransSask at http://www.transsask.org/ and if not, check out some of the resources listed in my A2Z Community post. Building a community of people who love and support you is one of the best things you can do for yourself!
About Tobi-DawneTobi-Dawne Smith is many things to many people... photographer, canine behaviour expert, equal rights activist, green politician, lactivist, intactivist, writer, crafter, dog handler, third wave feminist, etc. But most important in her life is her role as mother to an amazing five year old. Learn more about TD at http://www.tobi-dawne.com/ follow her blog at https://td365.wordpress.com/ get to know her daughter at http://lilyannslemonade.wordpress.com/ or check out her work at http://tdphotography.me/
Posted on April 20, 2012, in AtoZchallenge, gender variant, lgbt, LGBTTQ and tagged coming out, community, family, gender variant, LGBT, love, reintegrating, sexual minority, social, stigma, support, trans, transgender, transsexual. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.