Seems I start blog posts like that more and more often. It’s true though. Halloween is exhausting normally, with all the parties, sewing, crafting, pumpkins, treats, etc. But add in caring for puppies and trying to get ready for the big move? Yeah. I’m exhausted – and being sick all weekend didn’t help. And yes, I just plowed on through… too much stuff to do, too many events to take it. It’s Halloween, remember? 😉
Yesterday we gave the pups a new bed. Their first “big dog” bed. It’s still in the nursery, but we took out the Nature’s Miracle litter box that serves as a newborn bed (and containment), and brought in the doughnut bed. It’s all cute, and pink, and silky soft. And the boys love having free reign of the entire nursery now. Mom likes having a nice comfy spot too. So it’s a win all around.
Today I spent the afternoon working on the girl’s Halloween costume. Yes, yes, yes… I know she was Merida… but that was her Halloween PARTY costume. On Halloween itself she’ll be dressing up as Fairy Berry – her My Little Pony persona. For those who don’t live in Saskatchewan, YES. One costume for indoor parties, and a different one for trick or treating is necessary. It’s darn cold out there at night with the snow. Soooo…. LOL I found these cute little iron on strawberry patches, which ended up saving me some time. Instead of having to create both the Fairy Berry plant AND the strawberries that grow on it, I only had to create the plant and just iron on the berries. MUCH easier. Then it was just a matter of creating wings, sewing them on, upcycling a wig into a tail, and BOOM. Fairy Berry costume. Well… I bought her some pony ears too. Can’t very well be a MLP without the ears. So tomorrow it’s pumpkin carving in the morning, ballet in the evening, one more sleep, and it’s the big day. YAY!
Oh! And tonight was the Avenue Community Center’s first Family Mixer… the Creepy Queer Halloween Family Fun Night. We had a great time. Got to see lots of familiar faces as well as many new ones too. And the kid had a blast playing with the many children all close to her own age. It really was wonderful. I’m looking forward to many get togethers in the future.
On March 30th, Saskatoon had it’s first prom… well… first as far as I’m aware, and as far as my parent’s and grandparent’s are aware – and that’s as far back as this city really goes. So I feel I’m pretty safe saying that it’s a first for this prairie city. Anyway…
It was an amazing night. Some folk I talked to were concerned about a city-wide prom, with people from any school welcome to attend. There was talk about things like school rivalries and the possibility of fighting. All I could really do was smile. These were obviously adults who just didn’t get it. This was an event I knew our youth would rally around.
Prom is an amazing right of passage, and one we’ve never had here. We’ve all watched the movies, read the books, heard the stories. Prom is supposed to be amazing, and it’s something everyone deserves to experience. And at 34, I went to prom… and just like all the teens in the movies, my parent’s bought my dress.
Saskatoon’s first prom was made even better by being a part of Pink Revolution (an anti-bullying week which made it’s debut this year). So huge thanks to the Avenue Community Center and all their amazing volunteers for making it happen. Both Pink Revolution and the Pink Prom were ground breaking events and I sooo look forward to them happening again next year.
As the official photographer for the Pink Prom, I organized my first ever photobooth. No, it’s not my typical photography (usually on location in the study of life and love) but it was sooo much fun. I was happy to donate my time and skill for something so incredible.
Yep, that’s me at prom. 🙂 Wanna check out the rest of the action from my photobooth? Head on over to http://td365.smugmug.com/ Prints and other cool items are available!
One of the very best things you can do for yourself is to build community. Having a “family by choice” will provide you with the supports we all need and don’t always get after coming out to our family by blood. Even in those instances where your family is fabulous and supportive, it always helps to have a community of people who really understand what you are going through and who have either been there, or are currently right with you.
The internet is an amazing resource when it comes to finding a sense of community. These days, even individuals with severe, life-limiting anxiety disorders can still find others and build camaraderie. We can find a global community, always ready and waiting thanks to things like email lists, online forums, and FB groups. But I do encourage you to also seek out local individuals, because there are times when we all need to reach out and actually FEEL another person whom we can trust and know will be there for us.
Here in Saskatoon I can’t recommend the ACC any more highly than I already do. They run a number of excellent programs for individuals of almost every age range in almost every situation. You can find them online at http://avenuecommunitycenter.ca/. PFLAG is also another amazing resource, and there are branches all over North America. Check them out at http://www.pflagcanada.ca/ and http://pflag.org/. For those of you in high school, talk to your guidance counselor to find out if there is a GSA you can join. And for more information on resources in your neck of the woods, check out http://www.gaystraightalliance.org/ which includes a directory that is world wide.
There is no reason to feel you have to go it alone. You aren’t alone. Far from it! No matter how you identify, even if you aren’t sure how exactly you fit into the whole spectrum, you can be sure there are others out there just like you. And now you’ve got some tools to help you find them.