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A Starfish in Our Family Bed

I don’t know about you, but I love the “crappy pictures” blog.  It’s a pretty good look inside life as a parent, and has a way of capturing those moments you need to laugh about so you don’t start crying.  LOL  One particular drawing that I picture quite often, that I first saw ages ago now… or, well…  what feels like ages ago in Mommy to a young child time, can be found here:  http://crappypictures.com/2011/06/what-it-is-like-to-not-sleep-at-night-illustrated-with-crappy-pictures.html

Now, I have that link set to open in a new window.  So go take a peek if you haven’t seen it before, and then get your butts back here for the rest of my blog post.  I’ll wait.

See?  This is me waiting.

Are you finished yet?

How about now?

Just about done?

Alrighty then.

Back to me.  😉

Well, when the kid fell asleep last night, as usual I wrote my blog post…  it was pretty boring, but it had been a “sick day” and my brain was pretty much toast.  The girl was still sick today, but I actually got to have a small bath break in the evening while her Daddy and her each played games on their respective mobile devices, next to one another, in the same room, rather than playing WITH one another (I wasn’t going to complain, I needed the break).  Okay, now I’m getting off topic (seriously, I hadn’t had a mommy-only bath in MONTHS, it was SOOOO good…  just me and the only grown up reading material I could find – a Readers Digest from last year).  LOL

Okay, so anyway…  After writing in my blog, the Daddy and I turned on a couple of episodes of Community to wind down for the night.  It wasn’t long before THIS happened:

What it looks like when a four and a half year old "starfishes" across the family bed.

What it looks like when a four and a half year old "starfishes" across the family bed.

And yes…  that is the kid, taking up the entire top half of our family bed.  So, while Amber so perfectly illustrated the baby starfish in her crappy pictures blog, this is what it’s looks like when a four and a half year old starfishes across the entire family bed.

Gotta love it!

Our Queen Size Family Bed Seems Big

Tonight, out of the blue, kid kid announced that she was going to sleep in her “up high bed” (it’s what we call her loft bed that we built above our bed).  For the longest time it has been a place where she goes to play, or to craft, or to read when she wants some time to herself.  We built it when she turned three so that it would be there for her whenever she was ready.  Well…  at four and a half I guess she’s ready.  I have to admit, our queen size family bed seems awfully big and a little lonely just now, with only me in it.

The girlie is up in her bed.  The husband is upstairs on his computer.  And I’m laying, alone, in our family bed.  Yep.  A queen sized bed feels unnecessarily big and lonely just now.  If this becomes a habit, I may have to invite a dog or two back into my bed.  The last one to sleep with us was Nico, and he crossed the Rainbow Bridge back when Lily-Ann was still a wee babe.

I knew she was starting to grow up when we left the terrible three’s behind (seriously, who the hell coined the term “terrible twos”??? The two’s are EASY compared to the threes…  that’s when the REAL terrible stuff shows up) and we had a generous, kind-hearted, helpful kid (okay, a GENERALLY generous, kind-hearted, helpful kid) show up.  But I don’t know that I’m really ready for her to be quite this grown up.  I kinda miss my baby.

Hmmm…

Might have to start auditioning the dogs for the role of bed-sleeper.

 

 

Here are a few posts I’ve made previously about our sleeping arrangements and the loft bed:

Absolutely Enchanting!

I had actually planned on blogging about some pretty big things that are going on right now politically.  There’s some big stuff happening that both lactavists and internet users should both be aware of…  but you know what?  I need tonight to just recharge.  So I do hope you’ll forgive me.

Instead of taking the time to blog, I chose to sit and look at my beautiful, amazing, incredible, creative, loving, rambunctious, stick-to-it kid.  I know I’ve said it before…  but as a co-sleeping momma I think about it often.  I am so grateful for these night time moments.  When I can just lay beside my awesome daughter, taking everything in.  She recharges me.  She sometimes drains me too.  LOL  But she always gives me so much more than she ever takes away.  I’m a lucky mommy.  And she is my joy.

Sleeping Beauty

 

So… it’s a short blog post.  But I’ve got more important things to do.  Like snuggling with my sleeping girlie.

Sometimes joy is simple…

When I watch my wee girl sleeping, laying in bed next to me, joy is simple.  Nothing could fill my heart more than watching her here, quietly breathing.  Each rise and fall of her tiny chest elevates my happiness a little further.  This type of joy is easy.  This love comes easily.  Some joy, some love, you really have to work at…  but for now, I’m blissfully happy just laying here in the dark with my wee one beside me.

Families who don’t co-sleep may find certain things easier (like couple time for mom and dad).  LOL  But I wouldn’t trade this closeness with my daughter for any of it.  She sleeps soundly knowing I’m right here, and I sleep better knowing she is safe and sleeping deeply.  This, for me, is a natural.

The wee girlie has her own bed.  It’s a loft we built in Autumn.  It’s right above our bed (I even posted a couple times about it here).  And she slept in it for quite a while…  and I missed her while she was up there.  LOL  But as she grows and changes, sometimes  she needs us closer than at others.  And right now, she needs these night times.  It won’t be long until she rolls her eyes when I ask for a hug and kiss, so as long as she wants me close, I’m happy to remain so.

Co-sleeping is worth any tiny sacrifices we may have to make…  but honestly?  Those sacrifices are nothing compared to the rewards it brings.  In a world full of people with sleeping disorders, I know my daughter sleeps soundly.  She  is safe, secure, and attached.  Just as she should be.

Soundly Sleeping Sweetie

HOME!

After spending two weeks at my parents place while they were away on their first real couples vacation I spent last night in my own bed.  And while  the girlie tossed and turned, and rolled all over the place (from the foot of the bed, to my legs, to across my stomach, to the pillows, and back again) it was still absolutely glorious.  It was so fabulous to have my husband and my dogs next to me.

One thing to admit?  Our bed felt awfully small.

After having two weeks of a queen size bed with just the girlie and myself, suddenly having to share the same size with more made it seem a little snug.  I wouldn’t trade it though.  And it made me so grateful for our family bed.  Having my entire family snuggled tight together again just felt sooo right.  I missed it desperately.

So while I’m awfully tired, I’m also awfully happy.

…being tired means I’m not uploading a photo, nor am I sourcing one online too share tonight.  LOL  So you’ll all have to make do without one.

Good night!

Sleep Tight…

Here’s the wee girlie, fast asleep.

Lily-Ann is loving the new toddler bed.  It’s still pushed up against ours, side-car.  But not having the crib rails makes her feel really good, which makes me feel really good too.

Treated the photo with an antique filter in iPhoto.

sleeping girl

Sleep Tight

Okay…  so I actually took this photo last night.  BUT, I took it AFTER midnight – which means it counts as today.  Right?  LOL

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