On Thursday my attention was drawn to a new part of the daily routine for the girl’s kindergarten class. As soon as I saw it I knew I had to do something to have it changed. Today was my first chance.
A simply drawn boy wearing a baseball cap, and holding a bat and ball, coloured blue with the word BOY. His counterpart in pink with a pretty dress and holding a flower with the word GIRL sits beside him. Both on the bulletin board next to the calendar, a counting chart, and other simple items used to subtly teach the kindergarten class basic numerical skills.
The teacher touches the head of each student she deems as “boy”, counting as she goes. “Seven boys.” The number gets written on the wipe off board under the picture representing “boy”. She then touches the head of each remaining child, counting. “Five girls.” That number gets written on the board too. An addition sign gets added between them, and everyone counts on their fingers. “Twelve kids. Seven boys and five girls makes twelve kids.”
Now, my ideal kindergarten is gender neutral. At this age there really is no reason at all to discuss “boy” or “girl”, what each means, and how we each fit into societies gender binary – at least not at school. At the very least, if it can’t be a neutral space, it should be a equal space. And these disgustingly stereotypical figures are far from that. If we must count girls and boys, we need to ask the children “Who identifies as a boy?” Then count the raised hands, marking the result under the word (no picture) BOY. “Who feels like a girl?” Then count those raised hands, marking those results under the word GIRL. But I think we can do better. Why reinforce a false binary by bring gender into question at all? After all, there are more than two sexes, more than two genders (and the terms boy and girl can refer to either gender or sex, which just further muddies the water).
Why not ask “Who likes baseball?” and “Who likes football?” and add those two numbers. Switch it up, and the next day ask “Who likes veggies?” and “Who likes fruit?”. Every day of the week could be a different pairing of questions. After all, we don’t need to come up with the same answer every day. Some kids may vote yes to both, some may not raise their hand at all. This way we practice our early math skills, learn something interesting about our friends, AND we don’t reinforce any false notions about gender or sex – which have no place in a kindergarten class to begin with.
I spoke to kid kid’s teacher about my concerns today, and I’ll be honest. I’m not sure she understood my concerns at all. She thanked me for bringing them to her attention – but it was very much a canned response… what one could expect from someone who has never really given much thought to their own gender or sexual identity, someone with CIS privilege, who has lived in a very small, heteronormative box, their entire life. While I don’t hold this against her, it does mean it may be time for a little educating. Issues of gender and sexual identity are vitally important to the health and safety of our young people (and the adults they will become), and even something as simple as being told they are BOY… simply drawn with a baseball cap, bat and ball, coloured blue… can hurt, when that child knows -inside- it’s not right.
Some time ago I was telling one of my girlfriends about the fact that pink really only came to be considered a “girls colour” about 1/2 century ago. Before that it was strictly for the boys. And if you go any further back, both boys and girls wore white dresses from birth until they were seven or eight years old. The idea that pink was a gender specific colour meant only for girls is a fairly recent concept… and honestly, it’s not based on ANYTHING really.
Back when blue was for girls, it was considered airy and light: feminine. Pink was a diluted form of red, which is fierce and stern: masculine. But, if you ask me… it doesn’t matter how you slice it. Pink is just pretty, and damn it. I like it.
It has nothing to do with it being girlie or feminine. I just think it’s a pretty colour. Pastel pink, light coral, even a salmon… the colour just makes me feel good.
The idea that even colours have been paired off in this gender binary is so ridiculous in every possible way. Quite honestly, I’d like to see us go back to the days when everyone dressed their children in dresses. The white I’m not so crazy about… Back then it was all about being able to toss them into a bucket of bleach water. But the dresses? Yep. Makes sense to me. Way easier to run around in.
Where am I going with this? Honestly? I have no idea. I’m mostly just rambling. LOL I saw an article today that referenced this whole colour/gender thing and it just reminded me that I’d actually been talking about it not too long ago. Soooo… here’s the article I read today: http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/When-Did-Girls-Start-Wearing-Pink.html But seriously, if it’s something you are interested in, there’s a ton of info out there about it. And from a feminist/human rights stand point, it’s rather interesting.
Why can’t I seem to make an actual point today? Well… my brain is a little fried. Working WAY too many hours. Thinking about WAY too many things. So, yeah. Just feeling kinda rambly. 😉