Sing with me now: “I am… I am Supermom. And I know what’s happening. I am… I am Supermom. And I can do anything.”
I read a blog post today that I had to come share. It started out saying:
Look, I know the areas in life where I excel. It unfortunately doesn’t involve me being a size two and wearing the most. stylish. boots. you ever did see. I will not be doing a triathlon, I’ll be the one over there handing out water and cheering you on while eating a muffin. My house isn’t ever company ready. Just move that pile of Legos, I will make dinner. I can make you laugh, I can make you think. I am a great friend. I am amazing in bed. I like the woman that I have become. I can also throw a party like you wouldn’t believe.
My name is Michelle and I throw “Pinterest worthy” parties for my children.
I don’t think this makes me a shitty mom, a superior mom, or that I have too much time on my hands. I assure you, I do not.
I also don’t think it makes you a shitty mom for NOT throwing parties like that for your children’s birthdays, having a spotless house, and working full time.
I encourage you to check it out here: http://www.sowonderfulsomarvelous.com/2013/06/moms-when-are-you-going-to-learn.html
The whole point of the post was what I’ve always said, that our priorities and skills may be different, but that doesn’t make any one of us better at being a Mom than the rest of us. That it’s time we supported one another, cut each other some slack, and honestly do the same for ourselves.
The author goes on to say that she is NOT Supermom. But you know what? She’s wrong. She’s totally Supermom. Just like you and I.
We are ALL Supermoms. I mean honestly! Think about it!
Today, I’ve already walked back and forth from my daughter’s school three times, and I’m going to do it one more time before the day is through. And yes, one of those three times I seriously contemplated stripping down to my skivies and laying on a neighbour’s lawn because the heat was so freakin’ unbelievable (35 degrees, insane). But taking the time to make my daughter feel safe and valued? That makes me Supermom. Does it make those Mom’s who’s kids are in daycare or who have to eat lunch at school less super? Hell no. It just means we’ve made different choices about how best to parent our individual families. And that’s totally okay. Being a Mom is tough. It’s not for everyone (and kudos for those of you who recognize this is not the life for you BEFORE you end up in the middle of it). There’s a whole lot of judgement out there for the things we do or don’t do… but come on. At the very least we should be able to count on our fellow Supermoms for support and appreciation. We all rock pretty freakin hard!
Well… another year has come and gone, and with the Anniversary Ball and the Golden Pens, we say goodbye to May and to the last year. I never get choked up about the new year, it’s just never been a big deal to me. But May 31st? It’s how I measure my year, and my successes and failures.
I’ve grown up with the MomWriters. I really was just a kid when I first joined this amazing group. I couldn’t have been more than 22 (but it might have been even longer ago than that). I was a dog mom, and wrote canine non-fiction. And like a kid, I was pretty selfish. I was in it for me. It was about networking and getting my work out there and noticed.
“Time may change me….”
To be honest, I’m not really sure how everyone put up with me back then. LOL But they welcomed me with open arms, and stuck it out with me too. I can’t imagine a better group of Women, and am so proud to call them my friends.
It’s odd… to have been friends with people for so long, yet to have never met them in person. They are as real a presence in my life as any person I see on a regular basis. Their support, advice, strength, loyalty, friendship, and love has seem me through a lot. The group may not be as active as it once was (with the changing face of the internet) but we all know that should any of us need each other: “yes, should you need us, for any reason at all…” Well, we know we don’t have to look very far to find the support we need.
So, congratulations to all this years Golden Pen winners! Lovely chatting with you all at the Ball (which is where I’ll be headed again after hitting “publish”)! And here’s to another 14 years of friendship. Nothing like the life of a freelancer and mom. 😉
So, I’m all caught up and am able to resume running my photography business how I’m happiest. Only a few shoots a week – which means I can edit those shoots in the same week. I am decidedly a much happier photog when I don’t have to keep my customers waiting on their photographs. 🙂
Today I got to work with a delightful Mom and her two daughters. We really did have a lot of fun. Belinda was a little nervous about our shoot, and had been stressing a little during the week leading up to it. But I can safely say that shortly after getting started she hit her stride and did fabulously. Her and her girls were a blast – and the resulting photos are evidence of that.
So Belinda! Thank you for the wonderful afternoon. It was a pleasure working with you and your girls.
Every year, throughout May, I celebrate an amazing group of Women writers. They are strong, creative, talented, giving, hard working, incredible people – and I am proud to call them my friends. They are the MomWriters.
I can’t recall how long I’ve been one of them, but it’s as long as I can remember… before I was mature enough to really be considered an adult, before I really knew who I even was. They’ve seen me through many, many trials, and they’ve celebrated with me through many triumphs too. The MomWriters are an incredibly important part of my life.
I started writing out names here – but got to 30 and had to stop… there were still so many to go, and well… I’d feel awful if I forgot someone. LOL So better to just say “YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!”
Today marks the MomWriters Anniversary. The culmination of a month full of celebration, and remembrances. We have a virtual ball. We all choose our dresses (and yes, we call all fit into whatever size we wish, and take whatever dates we like – it is virtual after all). So here is my dress: http://www.simplydresses.com/shop/viewitem-PD675659 And I’ll wear it in MY size. I’m a 15, but am comfortable in my skin. And definitely in the coral, it’s my very best colour. 😉 And girls? This year, I’m leaving my date at home. It would have been my husband or Orlando Bloom – but I’m feeling like a grrrlz night is in order. And I’m going barefoot!
The Golden Pen Awards are always organized by our dear Carma – the true heart and soul of MomWriters – and she tallies our votes on this day every year. I’ve won a few over the years (but always in one category, the John Hancock award). This year though, not only was the award a surprise, but so too was the nomination. Still don’t know who actually nominated me – speak up if it was you. I’d like to give you a big squeeze to say thank you! So, this year? A huge surprise to win the Debate Diva award “for the Momwriter who loves to debate issues — any issues — but does so in a kind manner”. Thank you ladies (and gents, because we do have a couple of gents in our little group), this means a lot. 🙂
When I told my husband that I won the Debate Diva Award for this year, he laughed and said “no shock there”. LOL But it was a shock, a really wonderful one. It really was. I didn’t even campaign for this win. LMAO
Congratulations to all the Golden Pen winners, and to everyone who was nominated – you are all such amazing women. I’m proud to be in your ranks! And to have not yet been thrown out! 😉 Can you guys throw me out? Maybe no-one has thought of that yet. I better be quiet (and pay off Guido). hehehe…
So… before I head to the ballroom to join my wonderful incredible friends – my source of support, of unconditional love, of motherly advice and wisdom, of power, of kindness, of all things good that Women are – Thank you! I know none of us says it often enough. But you truly mean the world to me. I am so blessed to be a part of such an amazing group of women. I believe in the power of SHE!
A fellow writer, Mom, and Canuck, wrote a blog post today entitled “Owning My Own Beauty“. It lead me to “Own Your Beauty“, an online campaign hoping to change the way women think about beauty. It was this that got me thinking tonight.
When I hear the word beauty, or more specifically, when I think about beautiful people my list may be different than some. Many end up with a list similar to People magazine’s most beautiful people list. I truly believe the people on my list are far more deserving of the word. Here are some of the first people who come to mind for me:
Each of these persons is amazingly beautiful, inside and out. Incredible fighters, working for a cause, determined to bring us into a better world free of discrimination and prejudice. These are the sorts of people our daughters should be looking up to. Each willing to put themselves on the line, willing to speak their minds, unwilling to compromise on what’s important. They may believe in different things, they may work towards different ends, but they are all beautiful incredible people.
Apologies to the many, many more beautiful people I know. It would have taken me ages to create a complete and exhaustive list featuring all of you. And to those of you here, I hope you don’t mind that I just snagged one of your facebook photos. Some of you I have photos of that I took myself (but I’m not posting from my desktop computer so don’t have access to them just now) and others I’ve never met in person (but do hold out the hope that one day I will).
How many beautiful people do YOU know? If you open your eyes AND heart I’m sure you’ll find that they are everywhere. 🙂
Be kind to each other.
Welcome to our Collective Kitchen group. We’re the Lentil Ladies. 🙂
From the left we are Janice, Colleen, Sarah (our group leader), Riki (my sister), and Michelle.
We get together once a month to cook vegetarian meals for our families. Today we made Dahl (which was wonderful), an amazing pasta sauce with a veggie soup stock base, hand-made ravioli and spaghetti, and an apple syrup (for deserts or pancakes, or well… to just eat). 😀 It’s a great chance for everyone to make some incredible food, gab away, and just feel at home.