Posted by Tobi-Dawne
Any time you share close quarters with another human being, there will be times when you’d like to take a frying pan to their brain pan. People get on each others nerves. It’s just the way it is. What makes a relationship work, is knowing that you can make it beyond those kinds of moments.
When it comes to the important things, you need to be able to see eye to eye. But those little things – that usually don’t matter? Those are the things that will drive you insane.
- You like to sit down and work at a task, from start to finish. Power through. Getter done. Be done, and put it all away.
- They like to putz a little with this, then work on something else. Take a break. Play a game. Go back to the first thing for a while.
- You like to get everything done with time to spare so you can relax after the rushing around.
- They like to take their time, fiddling with things here and there, then go crazy in a dash of speed at the last possible minute.
- You like to have a plan. To set things out. To know what’s going to happen when, so you don’t feel stressed, and know what’s coming next.
- They don’t like to think about what’s coming. Just tackle things as they come. Do things when they feel like it, and let the rest fall wherever it happens to.
Yeah… those little differences.
You can let those differences drive you nuts to the point where it can drive a wedge between you. Or you can just take a breath, and know that sometimes things will go your way, and sometimes things will go theirs.
We all let frustration get the better of us some days. But as long as you express that frustration, and let it out before it turns into anger, then it’s a lot easier to deal with. Some days though, some days it gets to the anger point. And honestly? I figure you might as well get one good yell out, and then move on. Bottle things up, and you’ll end up with trouble.
Anger really is a wasted emotion. You don’t think straight, and you can’t accomplish anything when you are all bent out of whack. So let it go. Honestly? As nuts as they make you, you probably make them at LEAST as nutty. So get angry, but then let it go. It’s not worth holding onto. And the longer you hold onto it? The worse YOU will feel.
Let it go. Take a breath. And remind yourself… chances are, there are worse things out there. I for one, feel much better facing those “worse things” with my best friend at my side (even if he does drive me absolutely batty from time to time).
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